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It’s Not Your Fault

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

It’s Not Your Fault. You Can Stop Blaming Yourself.

Take The 10 Day Challenge.

 It’s time we educated ourselves and stop letting others hurt our health and control our lives! 

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A great blog post by Kate Gotsis on this same topic.  Keep reading.

Sweet Sacrifice

In case you haven’t noticed, sugar is everywhere. Of course the places it’s being obvious are, well, obvious. Candy, soda pop, cake, muffins, cookies, pies, chocolate, etc, full of sugar, we expect and accept that. But it’s also in some not so obvious places, like ketchup, hot sauce, and salad dressing. it’s the “vanilla” in your favorite soy, almond, hemp, or grain milk, it’s in healthy cereal ( organic cane juice=SUGAR) , bagels, pizza, wine, beer, spirits, “healthy” chips, and soup. I was horrified to find it in my favorite condiment of all time! It’s the second ingredient in Sriracha! My beloved Korean ketchup! I can’t say I was surprised; horrified, yes! Surprised?  No, I sort of expected it, being that it’s my favorite condiment and all. But– DAMN IT! Oh perfect condiment, bright and spicy, so much better than just ketchup, able to bravely ride atop a grilled chicken and spinach salad, a delight in hummus dip, the unexpected Korean dance partner to the Frenchest of fries-I will miss you. You gracefully went where ketchup couldn’t, or at least shouldn’t.

 

candyland 150x150 Its Not Your Fault Don’t get me wrong here people, I love sugar, I’m no sugar nazi, and I don’t want to become one of those annoying people who obsessively scans labels and drills the server or barista: “ are you sure there isn’t ( insert your favorite edible enemy)  in that sauce?”, and lies that you have an “allergy”, just to be sure you’re not “poisoned”,  because, #1, I used to be one of those annoying people, and #2, those people get on my flipping nerves. I do believe some of my annoyance is because I know damn well, having once been a enemy of all processed foods, and most animal foods, what’s in the foods I have been shoving down my gullet for the last couple of years. People with restricted diets are, for the most part, well educated about whatever foodstuff they are currently snubbing. So, I’m a little bit savvy about food and stuff, also, it is required that you take a nutrition course to become a nurse.  Then you become a nurse, and discover that the number one way grateful patients show their appreciation is-sugar! And you eat it, because it helps. Because glucose is the fuel for neurons. It gives you a boost, helps you focus, and then you crash-and then you eat some more, and on and on to infinity. we’ve all been there.

 I have been eating gobs of processed and unprocessed sugar.  I’m not going to go into the science of why this isn’t good, we all know-sugar makes you fat, gives you diabetes, rots your teeth, sends your blood sugar on violent roller coaster rides, and leaves you craving more. It’s a drug, dig?

I have been on a violent roller coaster ride.

 My Mother died from sugar poisoning. She was a diabetic who was first diagnosed at 40 with “borderline diabetes”, and because she wasn’t able to change her nasty habits, she was awarded full-fledged “diabetic” status a few months later. She died (peacefully), while on dialysis when she was 59, but not before she suffered complete kidney failure, several strokes, open heart surgery, and had both her legs chopped off. Diabetes is a fucking monster. My Grandmother had it as well. I don’t want it.

But, all of this wasn’t enough to keep me from waking at 3am last Friday, stumbling into the kitchen and eating half of a 72% dark cocoa chocolate bar (it’s healthy!!!) I knew there was something out of balance that would cause cravings mean enough to wake me up-to make me eat sugar at 3am-and then fall back to sleep without brushing my teeth!! Egads!  

My cells felt sick.  I was out of balance. I have been out of balance for a while.

 Maybe the crazy yogi in Taos was right; maybe I did have an overgrowth of Candida in my digestive tract.  My friend and I were in Taos in September, we had “health assessments,” compliments of a manipulative man whose specialty was misusing the power of yoga. He had well-developed siddhis, (yogic powers, a by-product of yoga practice) so, he was psychic and, perhaps crazy. He had huge, wild, swirling eyes and his thoughts flew out of his mouth  fast and unchoreographed, a messy word salad. He was a thief too, but, maybe he was right?  I did crave sugar.all of the time and candida craves sugar.

 I had rolled around with the possibility of a candida infection several times since my visit to Taos, but I wasn’t ready to commit to the idea, to sacrifice my sweets, also, I kind of looked at Candida “infection” as a sort of hippie ailment, because most of the people I knew who complained of this were hippies, or at least neohippies. You wouldn’t go to an allopathic doctor and get diagnosed with a candida infection, unless it was “down there”, or in your mouth, typically in this world,  if you can’t see the stuff, it aint there. Instead  you have irritable bowel syndrome, chronic fatigue syndrome, or fibromyalgia ( all the nurses reading this shudder) . Unless you go see a Naturopathic doctor, they love to diagnose this; apparently it’s under-diagnosed in the big world.  The list of  possible symptoms of yeasty take over is immense; who doesn’t suffer from occasional mood swings????? I’m sure you have at least five symptoms of candida infection.  I have 11 of them; maybe more depending on the resource.  

Then it happened. 

  I went to a yoga nidra meditation on Sunday, and before we drifted off  to yogi sleep land, the lovely teacher shared her experience of using the technique for five months, and then having her cravings for sweets magically fall away, then she guided us into a deep sumptuous yogic sleep.  yoga nidra is a delicious mystery designed to completely relax your nervous system, as it would  relax if you were in the deepest stage of sleep, the stage without dreams…but you are fully conscious. It’s magical, better than a groovy drug trip. Almost immediately,  I feel tingly and I am vibrating, I feel like a gob of sweet goo.  After some time, our teacher gently calls us back, and I notice I am crying.  I don’t have a story to match my tears-just tears and sweet goo. She made brownies for a sweet ending.I thought about grabbing one as I left, but something deep and gooey made my hand go for the tangerine lying on the plate next to the brown beauties instead. I got into my car and ate the sweet orange flesh, plucking the seeds from my mouth, just eating and plucking in the parking lot. Then, without much thought I drove myself to Sprouts, I bought the Candida cleanse recommended by the helpful saleswoman who shared that she struggled with Candida too. She looked like a hippie so I trusted her.

 I started my sugar fast Sunday nite. I cleaned out my refrigerator and cabinets.  My favorite lovers placed in a large brown shopping bag;  a gift to some lucky friend. Some  items surprised and disappointed me, (organic roasted red pepper and tomato soup?!)  But most of them, I didn’t even have to look at the list of ingredients.  It’s in there.

 So far it’s been hard. Not hard like nursing school, or living in California, but still hard.  I’ve been nauseous and sleepy ( a sign of candida “die out”)  But, this hasn’t made me stop, or even think about stopping.  It’s hard because I want what I want when I want it, but more than I want sweetness on my tongue, I want my energy back. I want to feel like I don’t have to eat a chocolate bar at 3am, I don’t want to be bossed around by some invisible demon that wants me to hurt myself.  I feel better, clearer, and my energy feels cleaner and more even. I don’t know if I have a candida infection, and I don’t know if I will get diabetes, hell, I don’t even know if there is a Santa Claus. Anything is possible.  Maybe I’m just bored, and needed a project since I have become what my friend calls a “lay-about” after not working for so many months, I don’t know.

But I want to feel good, I want to be healthy. It’s my birthday present to me,  it’s my gift to my Mom, and it’s a fun way to test my rusty superpowers; give up sugar right before Christmas! I hope I don’t become an annoying food snubber, but I suspect I already have.

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Relationship With Him

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

My hubby, Riad and I finally got to take

our honeymoon in Maui! 

I made this short video while on a morning beach run.  

Wow, love those crashing waves, but can you hear me?  

Anyway, a little share about relationships.

 

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bubble1 150x150 What kind of bubble are you living in?I just returned from Maui, HI and feeling so grateful that my honey and I finally went! We talked about it since he came to US from Africa 4 years ago – wow how time flies.
While in Maui, someone said “living in Maui is like living in a bubble.” It was pretty cool – he went on to explain that for the most part – they avoid TV, news and the negative crap going on in the world.  Instead they  enjoy lush surroundings and appreciate the life they are blessed to live on this amazing, breathtaking island.
Interesting about the bubble talk as I was in the middle of writing this blog article about the kind of bubble we live in.
If we keep a bubble of positive around us, like the guy in Maui talked about – life feels good!  That is what I call a high vibrational bubble.  Even my dear friend and best selling author, Michael Losier, talks about your vibrational bubble in his book “Law of Attraction, The Science of Getting More What You Want and Less of What You Don’t.”
But I also realized that we can be living in a limiting bubble and that is what I wanted to talk about today.  Is your personal bubble serving you?  What kind of bubble are you living in?
Your personal bubble is the world in which you live with all your thoughts, feelings, experiences and perspectives included.  It is your personal space around you and what is in your head.  Your own unique Universe.
Your  personal bubble it’s all about us.  How we look, feel, believe.  What we do, eat, fun stuff, stuff we hate, who we engage with, our job – our life.
When we’re in our bubble everything affects us personally.  Including what others say, do or how they act toward us – even when really it’s not about us – maybe it’s their shi#t and their taking it out on us- but we still take it personally. Our awareness is limited.  Our bubble is only our perspective. Know what I mean?  When we are in our bubble in this way – it is not serving us.
More ways living in a bubble can hurt us:
  • We avoid things that could enhance our life. Our bubble is our comfort zone and don’t want to get out of it – we avoid trying new things even if it can improve our life.
  • We become fearful of the unknown – going for new job interview or meeting someone new.
  • We start to lose confidence. To get out of our comfort zone means testing our personal power.  When we don’t try new things or test our personal power – our confidence begins to shrink and doubt grows.
  • We start to feel disconnected from others. When our confidence shrinks we close off more and more – become disconnected with others, with our happiness and even our purpose.
  • We fear failure and that contributes to closing off.
  • We procrastinate because of the fear of failing.
  • Our life becomes stagnate, purposeless and even boring.
  • We are becoming smaller in our energy, ideas, creativity, motivation.

How to get out of this kind of bubble.                                                                                                 It all starts with personal awareness.  Start questioning yourself on why you are not feeling happy, disconnected, lost or frustrated with life.  Or noticing that you are feeling less confident than you used to feel or that your relationships are changing – less rewarding, authentic, loving, or just less in general. These are signs. You are the center of your universe, and everything is related to you, your perspective and your feelings. This can contribute to why you can’t get motivated, implement new habits or you blame others for the way life is turning out – you’re in the bubble of limited awareness and opportunity.

Try some to these to move you forward:
Expand your bubble. For example, think of your bubble as an energy field around you.  If your energy is only 5 feet around you – that limits your perspective and possibilities and you feel small, stuck and isolated.  But if you imagine expanding your energy 300 feet up and around you (do this now just imagine opening up and stretching your inner light higher, wider, deeper) – you feel bigger energetically and you open to discovery, seeing new things, hearing new ideas.  You are even connecting to the Universe in a way that magnetizes more goodness back to you and allows you to receive what you deserve and desire.
Practice expanding your mind and heart too.  Feel what others must be feeling. Try to understand rather than condemning. See how little and petty your concerns and fears have been. Realize that if others treat you badly, it’s not about you, but about their suffering.
See how you can help others.  How can you lessen the suffering of others? Sometimes it’s just by paying attention, just listening. Other times you just need to be there, just lend a hand. You don’t need to go around solving everyone’s problems but be there for them as you would like them to be there for you.   See if you can make people’s lives better – create something to make them smile. Make them a  little part of your world too – be a little space of goodness.                                                                                     
Repeat this process multiple times a day, and you’ll get better at it.

 You’ll learn to be bigger than yourself. You’ll learn that the life we’ve been given is a gift, and we must make the most of it, and not waste a second. You’ll learn that there is nothing more fulfilling than making the lives of others a little better which in turn enhances yours.Being in a bubble can be a good thing when you are intentionally creating your life with positive thoughts – this is great self care and helps you to attract the same back to you for sure. And yet, if you are feeling small, disconnected, frustrated, lacking life and purpose – it’s time to look at the bubble you are living in and decide if it is serving you or hurting you.  Perhaps it is time to expand that bubble and allow more of the right things in so you can be more connected to others, discover and experience.

You deserve it all and can have – open up to the possibilities!

 

Dream big darling….

Teresa Salhi

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A 3 Minute Ritual for Self Love

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

Every day I have a little ritual I do without fail.  A 3 minute ritual. It’s my way to push reset. To get into my body. It’s one of my daily practices to create epic self-love.  Inspired by Mama Gena.

It’s not the journaling, reading spiritual books, meditating, visualizing or even working out.  Although I do those things too.

And it is not the kind of self-love that is a result of your hard work, how great you look, or how effective you have been — it’s the kind of self love you feel for absolutely no reason, just because.

The only way to practice this kind of self love — the turned on, lit up, legend-creating kind — is to get into that gorgeous body of yours. To feel it, to move it, to inhabit it. Your body will teach you self-love in a way that your intellect cannot.

I want to share this practice with you this week. In fact, I want you to do it with me and it only requires a few minutes – heck if you only did for 30 seconds that would be super awesome.  And I promise you, if you say yes, it will make this day better.

It’s dancing.

Dance naked? Sure if you want to – why not?

Now here’s the thing: the majority of you may not want to take me up on this. You will want to stay glued to your chair, staring at your screen, reading about moving, and not moving.

I know, I know….seems a little awkward or think you dance awkward.  Who cares. Being stuck in your head and not wanting to move is a perfect place to start. Awkward is the new sexy.

Just for fun, as a harmless experiment in service to your greatness, I’m going to ask you to trust me and do it anyway.

If you’re at home, crank your speakers. If you’re at work, head into the bathroom with headphones. Wherever you are, stop what you’re doing and press play. Dance with me for at least 30 seconds and see how your mood shifts. 

And then share with someone you love – your sister, girlfriend, your daughter…..

Today I was spending time with a special woman and she said this was here theme song.  Perfect to share, ready?

 

Felt good huh?

What you just did is you flooded your body with nitric oxide. Why is that important? Because nitric oxide is the antidote to cortisol, which is the stress hormone that courses through our veins when we’re in our heads, disapproving of ourselves, and hustling to get through the day.

When you dance, when you move, even for 30 seconds, you take the opportunity to shift your body chemistry just enough to point your day in a better direction.

Also, moving your body – your hips  – activates a woman’s power source that resides in the center of her body.  Your power source is home to your intuition, your knowing, your being –your confidence.

A dance break is like a no-fail reset button. Use it.

So I would really love to see your comments: Did you dance with me? Did you like it? Did you get to the end of this post while still sitting in your chair? Did you at least dance in your chair?

Let’s join together in celebration of our women’s bodies, and the joy of moving them.

Empowering Dreams with more Epic Self Love!

Teresa Salhi

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Are You Over Giving or Over Drawn?

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

woman tired Are You Over Giving or Over Drawn?Many woman are over givers.  They feel over drawn with time and energy when it comes to giving to herself or expressing a life of passion and purpose.  Sound familiar?  Ok, so let’s change this. 

What I have learned profoundly is that – it is okay to give to yourself ! And, even more than you give to others!

This means letting go of feeling guilty. Giving to yourself doesn’t make you selfish, a narcissist or mean that you stop taking wonderful care of the people you love.

I am suggesting that women like you – to adopt this as a belief now and forever.   Another good thing is – it’s actually a life saving piece of advice for exhausted, depleted, busy, over-stretched, overworked, frustrated women everywhere.
 
  The truth is – the more you give to yourself, the more you have to give to others and that is just simple math.
The more you have to inspire, share your unique passion that make the world a better place.
 
Think of it this way, most of us are like banks who only make withdraws of our time and energy (by giving to others) and we don’t take in enough deposits (receiving for ourselves), so eventually our personal emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual tanks become OVER drawn, depleted, zapped.  We get exhausted, crabby and resentful and no one wins.
The reason most of us feel out of balance is because we are OVER giving and UNDER receiving.  To give more love you need to allow yourself to receive more.
If you’re like many strong women I know, you may find yourself feeling under-supported and facing the daunting challenges and complexities in your life.You might feel spread too thin as you struggle to support yourself and your family financially, create mutually supportive relationships, stay active and healthy, and make a difference in the world with your gifts…

What can you do to change this?  Here a few tips that come from a woman living within her feminine power.

  • Ask for help.  Little bits of help can go a long way to fill up your energy.  Ask the kids, your spouse, your co-workers. Other like to be needed it gives them purpose, they learn and grow. We are all in this together.
  • Allow yourself to receive.  Say yes, thank you, smile and move on graciously.  Get into the habit of receiving, it’s ok and you deserve it.
  • Stop being a martyr or victim. This is not the way of a self cared, high vibrational woman.
  • Let it go.  Seriously – the control, the worry, the rules.  It’s just not that important in the long run.  But YOUR are
  • Have fun.  Let your hair down.  Plan something fun and adventurous.  HINT: Men love women who can have fun and they need you to be this way.  They are naturally in their head all the time – they need you to help them get out of it.
  • Exceptional Self Care.  Get some now.  Pamper, relax and rejuvenate.  It can be a day at the spa.  But even better it can be a daily routine at home.  Make it a morning ritual to spend quite time reading, reflecting on your dreams, meditation (super helpful) writing in a journal, exercising, being in nature, feel gratitude, nourishing your body with something green and healthy, lots of hydration, peace and love. 

These are inner support methods that will prepare you for the day, give you a grounded feeling, allow you to feel more confident – and less over drawn.  The world needs you to show them how to be in harmony.  To give is also to receive.  It is the love that truly makes the world go around.

 

With love,

Teresa Salhi

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shift 2014 Trailer Thumb THE SHIFT Movie   A Movie Made by A MovementI am very drawn to what is happening on the planet and within each of us.  We have an opportunity to bring forth more of what we desire as individuals by being part of a collective positive, loving support and energy to live healthy, wealthy, and wise.  This is also a time to embrace our feminine power – as in with compassion and connection.  I am sharing with you a movie that is in the making – The Shift.  So often we only see and hear of negativity, pain, war, destruction and hate.  This is about something different.  Maybe you too will want to support this movement.

I invite you to watch the  6 minute movie trailer below.

 

ABOUT THE SHIFT MOVIE

This a MOVIE MADE BY A MOVEMENT because what we are illustrating is a Movement that is the combination and culmination of all the movements to a more socially just society and peaceful world. Every one of us has a role to play and can contribute to making this a better world. Through this film, we want to show you demonstrations of those individuals who are already making a difference with passion and a commitment to positive change.

The film has magnetized incredible luminaries, leading edge thinkers, evolutionary futurists, scientists and ordinary people doing extraordinary things. I have put my life’s savings into this project over the last 10 years and now we want to include you in our mission to complete this film so we can share this message of hope and possibility with the world.

We have already shot many of the visionary interviews and now we want to complete shooting the individual stories of the ordinary people stepping into their power to make a difference to their families, local communities, countries and to the world.

Technology and innovation breakthroughs are rapidly advancing the individuals’ capability to make a bigger impact on the billions on the planet. We want to include some of these stories in the film to illustrate the impact that each one of us has the opportunity to create at this historical moment.  Enjoy!

Click the image below and watch the trailer  – 6 minutes.

 

THE SHIFT is here to shine a light on GREATEST STORY IN HUMAN HISTORY. And to give this STORY its name for all the world to see. NOW is the time for a whole New kind of STORY about a WHOLE New kind of WORLD. And since We Become the STORY we tell ourselves about ourselves.

Context is everything. And our STORIES become our MAPS. Our collective heart longs for realistic maps to create A WORLD that WORKS for EVERYONE.  This is the power of THE SHIFT as we focus on the questions, the stories, and the road map towards GLOBAL HUMAN THRIVING.

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In Between Dreams and Fears

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

If you know me, you know I have big dreams.

If you know me, ySEA 3686 In Between Dreams and Fearsou know that I am sensitive – to the degree of dis-empowering myself sometimes. 

I'm also sensitive to the the un-obvious desires of wanting more.

I feel mine.  And I feel yours.

The past few months, I have been deepening into my truth while opening up an inner space for my creative spirit to soar.

I have been in flow of joy and also in showers of tears as I allow myself to let go. 

I am giving myself permission to let go and it's scary.

 

Maybe you know what I mean.

Releasing the old, letting things die, not judging, stop thinking from my head and finding the deeper wells in my heart. 

I have to remind myself often that I am letting go – my mind is resisting and forgetting.

Sometimes it gets a little crazy.

It shows up, teasing me, dancing with me, beckoning me to come back, taunting me to stay there. 

That makes me want to just runaway.  Move. Leave. Close the door.

I need space.  I need a moment please. 

I share this with you, because I had an AHA – an inspiration that tip-toed in. 

I cannot run from me nor can I stay there.  I am in-between my big dreams and my fears. 

I am also enough – you are enough – we are enough – to get thru it. 

Yes, we are often in-between where we came from and where we are going. 

That's kinda cool if you think about it.

Until of course, we get bombarded by ads that tell us that we need to BE someone else or

 Facebook posts telling us to DO more or shiny pretty objects that tell us we need to BUY more. 

That's not so cool.

Please, back off,  JUST LET US BE…

We are ENOUGH right now.

When we're in our space here and now – the in-between is not so in-between.

I mean, the only question really is…

Where do I want to go from here? What do I truly want to create and experience next?  

Not from an ego, fear-based, scarcity place, but from your place. My place.

From our open, magical, loving, excited, creative, spirit place.

What kind of life do you want to live?

Yes, this is where we get to let our creativity soar!

The real AHA? Celebrating the in-between.  We are ENOUGH to get through it.

 

Peace baby……

Teresa Salhi

If you need a moment, less distractions, more AHAs and someone to see you as enough, I invite you to go on a journey with me.  One that connects to your creativity, inspiration and magic.  Let's go on a journey together….. 

 

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Happiness. Woman to Woman.

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

womanblackwhite Happiness. Woman to Woman.

“What do you need to make you happy? What are the ingredients you require?”  A question I asked one of my girlfriends recently.  Her answer? A beautiful, blank smile with a shrug of her shoulders.

She had no idea what she wanted or what she associated with happiness or pleasure.  That was me at one point too. 

What about you?  Do you know what gives you pleasure and makes you happy? Think about it for a minute. What is happiness for you?

  • Do you associate it with a feeling?
  • Or is it the capacity to love without fear?
  • Do you associate happiness and pleasure with things or people?
  • Do you expect someone else to make you happy?

Are these questions a bit difficult to answer – as they were for my friend?  I’ve been wondering if finding or understanding happiness should really be so difficult. What does it say about us when our society requires a library full of books on happiness – and yet many of us are unable to articulate our personal expressions of what happiness is.

Maybe this so called search for happiness is not the real issue. Maybe we are finding the ingredients of happiness difficult to articulate, to achieve and to sustain because we have somehow become at odds with this force of nature.  Isn’t it supposed to be organic and with a flow of blissful, natural energy?

I have learned and sometimes even painfully  – that the quality of life is in direct proportion to your commitment to it. It is not an advanced level of intelligence that is required to attract a higher state of joy but rather it is simply to develop the disciplines that will guide your transformation, you can learn to use the power within you to attract and be all that you deserve and imagine.

The truth is being a woman of joy is not complicated.  It may not be easy for some – however it is simple.  It merely takes understanding, awareness, practice and movement in the direction toward it.  The reason that some of us think that acquiring more pleasure in our lives is difficult is because it is has become a belief.  It is what we have been taught to believe.  Whether you believe it right now or not or have ever experienced abundant joy, you must at least consider this -happiness and joy are your birthright – you were born happy. It has only been thru experiences since birth that you may have been swayed away from your birthright of joy and of your truth.

Yet we are not all living currently from this state and we are living in a society that is focused on something quite the opposite.  Many people have dedicated themselves to examining women’s problems and although there is a place for therapists, weight loss centers, debt counselors and so forth – there is just too much focusing on our unhappiness.

I invite you to refrain from getting sucked into the unhappy syndrome that is smothered all over the media and rather let this be your time to anchor in a new belief, intention and  commitment.  One of loving the life you have and extracting out every juicy drop of sweetness.

Consider these common scenarios that we often experience:
Do you…

  • Feel like life is passing you by?
  • Pour time and energy into making others happy, but rarely have any energy left over for you?
  • Continue to wait for your knight in shining armour to save you?
  • Hear that life is about passion but most days you barely have enough passion to get out of bed?
  • Have the idea that fun is watching the next episode of Bachelorette?
  • Feel bored to death with your job but don’t have the confidence to go out and find a new one?
  • Confuse achieving goals with receiving joy?
  • Quietly meditate and Ohmmm through a spiritual practice and forget that you could also be dancing, celebrating, laughing?
  • Sometimes avoid looking in the mirror?


If any of this is familiar, welcome to the territory.

Every new experience confronts us with choices, and our everyday choices are no exception.
if you choose the path of least resistance – as in a lazy way -  then you will continue on a course that can be self-destructive. And you will grow old with little grace and little joy.

But if you claim for yourself another possibility, as with anything else, you open the door for amazing opportunities to show up. There is a way with little resistance, yes a way that isn’t laziness but eagerness and it is inviting you to flow into the life you are secretly yearning.  We can live our lives either responding to our circumstance or taking an active role and create it with some real passion – life does get better, in fact it can go beyond better – it can be downright delicious!

Set new intention to expand your beliefs.  Open up a new awareness of your own magnificence, kick pity out the door, implement new ways to add bliss to your everyday- and  yes, even learn ways to love some of the things that you now hate.


“If you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always got”

It’s time to stop thinking something is wrong with you, or comparing  yourself  to others.  So stop judging yourself  as not measuring up – this all weighs on your confidence, your self acceptance and self love.  Because that my dear, is the path of self destruction, self sabotage!

If you don’t know who you are,  what you want, where you are going or conscious of how you are ‘being’ – then the foundation will weaken and crumble over time.  Which will feel as if you have failed yourself and others.

However, as women we have amazing abilities and power to create so much wonder in the world.  We must believe. We must show up, open the door and say yes to the dance!

When joy is lacking from your life you don’t even notice that another year has gone. The reality is you are getting pushed back further and further from what you are truly here to be, to do or to have. 

  • Joy is your building block of self esteem – of self love.
  • Joy enhances, Improves and ignites juicy relationships.
  • Joy catapults success – at work, it’s motivating and inspiring to others.
  • Joy keeps you going – gives you energy and you feel alive.

And loving yourself is just as important.  Love is a necessary place for joy and pleasure to breed. You feel good about you, treat yourself well – very well – talk nice to yourself, love your body, acknowledge and honor your abilities, believe in your strengths and you are tapped in and tuned on to your feminine power. 

When you do these things, you not only rise to the occasion but you raise others up and you continually raise the quality of your life.

 Your pleasure is the burning ember to your feminine essence.  This feeling of pleasure that will spark the fire within, motivate you to stay true to who you are.


Pleasure may very well be one of the greatest untapped resources on the planet.

Set this intention now, the intention to embody new ways to source your power and pleasure in the creation of your life – from this point to forever.
It is yours to be had!

Please leave a comment here about this article if something resonated with you.  Your thoughts mean alot to me!

Happy Mothers Day!

 

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Money Mantra

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

 A Feminine Empowered Money Mantra

I am a wealthy feminine empowered woman. Money comes to me at the speed of light. I integrate my spiritual and material wealth through love and gratitude. I am a money magnet. I am always at the right place at the right time to meet the right people to create the right relationship.  I have a consistently growing bank account. Money comes into my account faster than I can spend it.  I have more money at the end of my life than life at the end of my money. I pay myself first no matter what because I am worth it, because I deserve it and because I love myself.  I thank people that rely on me for their services. I assure that fair exchange is maintained. All my bills are paid. I am debt free forever.  I live in beautiful flowing abundance. I am able to support the growth of humanity including women and children who need money to release their voice and potential. I  am fulfilled with how I respect money and how it respects me. I maximize my discipline and patience for these are the qualities of financial maturity. I allow myself to receive abundance – receiving is a feminine empowered gift that I now embrace.  May all of this or something even greater happen to the highest good of all concerned.

This is a  modified version from a lovely woman who was in a mastermind program with me….thank you Kathrin!

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What Is Holding Me Back?

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

Do you ever think, what is holding me back from moving forward in my life or career?

Like, here I am …standing in my power, feeling the calling of my soul, knowing I am ready to leap off the cliff… but…I don’t go for it.

There’s something holding me back, again.

Ugh.

It’s different for everyone but a few common themes and beliefs that hold women back are around time, money, relationships, health, education.

But what if I told you  – it’s not that, it’s not true!

What if I told you that It’s Not What You Think?!

Einstein once said “You cannot fix a problem at the same level of consciousness that created it.” 

So, if you can’t fix a problem with the 4% of your conscious mind that is creating the problem…

how are you supposed to make any significant change in your life?

You do it differently - you access the 96% of the subconscious that is really running the show! 

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I’ve learned this lesson through years of repeating patterns that didn’t serve me. Until I learned the secret ingredient I’d been missing

that allowed meto do things completely differently.  I encourage you to find your secret ingredient too.

The secret for me is in the awareness that I cannot always work from the level of the mind only.  In the program

Feminine Way – Manifesting The Life You Really Want

we talk alot about being the leaders of our own movement. To be high vibrational women. To stop following the crowd, the drama, the guilt, the

limiting patterns, the loneliness and comparing yourself to others out there  – we need to embrace a radical approach that bypasses the mind

and goes to the heart of the matter - the subconscious.  We also need to engage – embody – understand the power of your divine feminine.

This is why women like you, who are smart, with big desires and alot of experience and knowledge, are still blocked and have “stuff” coming

up in your lives that you “can’t figure out.”‘  It’s because the stuff that’s occurring is not at the level of the mind! It’s not about being smart or

getting it “right.”   If you leave it up to your subconscious, it will always outmaneuver you.

So what’s a girl to do?

Reach out and get help.  Stop spinning. Stop self sabotaging. Stop getting on the roller coaster –

downward spiral, upward spiral, down again.

There is an opportunity to get the help you need.  If you want individualized support – it’s what I do and I am good at.  How do I know?

Well , I’ve been too.  For years.  And now I dedicate my waking hours to working with women like us – who have so much potential but there’s

this one little area that stops the unfolding of …everything!

If this is you, let’s change this before another day, week, year goes by….

Please contact me here and tell me what you are feeling….get it out. I promise to listen and to respond. 

I can offer lightening bolts of insights and perhaps- we’ll get you re-connected to your personal power again.

Please include your name, email and phone number (all required to get a response). 

You deserve to get the support you need.  Stop trying to figure out solutions with the same frame of mind

that lead you down that path in the first place. It’s not your fault and there is a solution.

Don’t want to share  – just yet? That’s ok.   Maybe you would like to start with the program I mentioned earlier – have a look at…

Feminine Way – Manifesting The Life You Really Want.

Are you ready to put yourself out there and live, love and prosper in a new way?

It’s time for you to live as a high vibrational woman is jumping off the cliff  – and soaring! 

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Courage To Dream

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

                     Have you seen those bumper stickers that say – “No Fear?”  In my opinion, 
             they should say “Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway!”
The most successful people are always courageous. They feel fear just like everyone else, however they have
a habit of moving toward the thing they fear, rather than away from it.
Ralph Waldo Emerson offered some simple advice,
“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.
The courage muscle can be developed just like any other muscle.”


When we think about courage, it’s usually stories of heroism that come to mind. But for millions of women (and men) around          the world, courage comes in a very different form. It’s a quiet voice that gives us the strength to go for another day. Take 5 minutes and be inspired by this movie celebrating the courage and strength of others just like you. 

 

 

Enjoy deepening your connection to your inner peace and power.

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woman90 Thinking Positive Doesnt Aways WorkDo you ever feel you want something so bad that it hurts?  Like it’s somehow impossible for you to have? And as

time goes by  you start thinking that you’re not doing enough – or you’re not worthy of this thing that you see so

many others enjoying.

Oh, it can get so frustrating and can put you in a tailspin of negative thoughts and feelings.  And before

you know it, one negative thought leads to another – all taking you in a downward spiral of more and more feelings

of inadequacy.

 

Or maybe you do trust that you can have what you so deeply desire – the love, the job, the friends, fun, etc…. and

you believe the Universe is on your side!  Yet, sometimes you catch yourself monitoring every thought – even

getting a little obsessive with trying to keep them positive when it seems as if it’s taking so long to get your

dreams out of your head and into your physical life.

You start to doubt.  You keep track of time and compare yourself to others – often creating more doubt.

 

You begin to doubt if you’re doing all the right actions – you question your confidence.  You get confused if you’re

listening more to our intuition and divine guidance or being just in your head all the time and following what society

says you must do, or be or believe or whatever….

 

Yep, I know, been there.

 

I know when I get like that – I have to let go!  Easier said than done. This is why I chose “letting go” as my theme

for 2014.  My intention is to practice it more and more – to put a conscious spotlight on what I need to let go of

– which generally all comes down to self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and trusting the outside world more than my inner

knowing.

 

So, I meditate.

 

I didn’t always know how.  And early on, I even thought it was weird to say it out loud – “I meditate.”  But not any

more, I know it works.  It is a practice of clearing your mind of clutter, garbage, negative self talk and to stop

thinking of all the craziness!

 

On the road to quietness – I found it helped to get some reprogramming.  To HEAR what aligns with my

higher self and to allow myself a few moments to cherish and explore my dreams.  For example, guided

meditations.  They  help a great deal!  Sharing the right words that keep you from taking a downward dive

into a endless pity party.  But rather an expansion of the dreams you are savoring.

 

I have one to share with you from Meditainment that will inspire and help you to let go and get back in your

groove! Please listen to this, you’ll be glad you did. I promise you will like it and maybe even choose to listen to

every day – which I highly recommend! This is for you darling! Listen now!

Come back and let me know what you think of this – how did it make you feel?

 

 

With love,

Teresa Salhi

You deserve to feel good and align with your highest self so that you can have what you desire and deserve in your life right now.

Here’s another idea that will support your desire to come true – others do and so can you!

 

 

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I remember asking myself if the reason I hadn’t find found the right guy had to do with me really wanting to find him?

Afterall, I had a couple of failed marriages behind me.  I was on a personal growth journey and using newly found concepts of the Law of Attraction in my life.  I was attracting men – just not the forever one.

So, what was up with not finding the one with all this experience I had and re-focus of what I wanted vs. what I didn’t!

And, was it true that the older you get the less choices you have? Or that the good ones are either already married or too old, or tainted somehow?

 

What I discovered was – it had nothing to do with him but it did have to do with MY real answer to my question. 

Whether or not I was ready to find  him.  It was about me. It was about who I was attracting as a reflection of me.  Was my heart ready to do it again?

The last marriage felt like it ended on our honeymoon. Sure we had 3 years together but it still felt new and we were in love,  or so we thought, or so we said. But it ended. Ugh. And it hurt.  It was a decision-less like decision that had to be made.  Him or her.  Her as in my daughter. I chose her. That was the decision that was obvious yet extremely painful to make.

 

Moving on, I found I was afraid to open my heart again and fall in love.  My experience was that if I open my heart and form a deep bond again with a man, then I might lose him.

This is one reason why it seems so much easier to find someone who is right for us when we are younger, in our teens and early 20s.  It’s because, when we are younger, we are still fresh and we don’t focus on the bad things and the pains of loving someone.

 

I now believe that if you truly want something, have no doubt about, are a personal reflection of it – you’d have it. 

Which means that if you really desired a deeper relationship with a man then you’d have one.  And  the only thing stopping you (or me:) from having it is the story we tell ourselves about why we CAN’T have it.

Ex: Not enough men in my town, not enough good men around, I’m too intimidating to men, I am ready for love, love hurts, etc.

 

I can totally respect the unconscious things that stop you from attracting the right man….love is kinda scary. 

But real connection is not so scary.   Most people settle for just a surface connection with lovers or friends because they think love is something to be afraid of – at the same time they want it.  That was my case for awhile.

 

Until I learned something more profound and true.

The truth is, we will likely be hurt at some point in a relationship. I don’t mean that a man will cheat on you or beat you.  I mean, you will feel all sorts of emotions that comes with being close to another human being:

- Loss

- Disappointment

- Rage

- Uncertainty

- Frustration

- Misunderstanding

 

Even just the fact that a man is built almost NOTHING like us is reason and cause for the emotional confusion and misunderstandings.

It’s always harder to be friends with or be in a relationship with someone who is NOT like us.  Because we trick ourselves to believe that we cannot trust them.  Men can be like jerks by nature and they can also be insensitive by nature – because jerk-like behavior (I don’t need you or anyone, I can do it all, I know it all) and insensitivity are actually just part of masculine energy.

 

Women can be confusing too, the very thing that causes a man’s insensitivity is the very thing that causes her to be attracted to him in the first place.  Ha.   Now, any good man is going to have some jerk-like behavior in him.   Just as any good woman will have some bitch in her.  I know this is definitely true for me.  Sometimes it serves and sometimes it does not. 

 

It still goes back to not really about him but about you. 

 

How much do You REALLY want to find love? How much do you really notice yourself, words and actions? What about your ACTIONS when it comes to finding love?

What do you DO on a daily basis that says if you really want to find love?  I remember wanting love but also saying out loud to others that I don’t want to go places where there are only couples or kissy-face people. Things like that.

 

Perhaps what you’re looking for are reasons to NOT be in love?

And this is much like the person who wants to lose weight too.  And somewhere along the line they realize that… I’m saying I want to love lose weight but I’m actually sitting on my couch eating ice cream all day.

This person doesn’t REALLY want to lose weight – because they are sabotaging any effort – if even unconsciously.

 

If you’re afraid of being in a relationship, you’re subconscious will find ALL sorts of reasons why NOT – and many of those are merely fabricated, make up or someone else’s story.

Sure, you don’t WANT to trust a man you shouldn’t trust! Like a man who actually has malicious intent and regularly dis-empowers you or tries to deliberately hurt you for his own ego.  Men like that do exist.  But why does it matter to YOU?   It is irrelevant to YOU, if you are not looking for a man like that!  It’s not really about them.

 

If you REALLY want to find love with a man then every single DAY you MUST practice having an open heart. 

You MUST practice connecting with all human beings – including yourself. I knew that deep down and why I choose to work on me first.  To first spend time alone.  Be ok with me first.  Love me first.  This helped to prepare me to openly connect with others and not close down the minute something threatened me.

 

I realized that a big sign of closing down receiving love also included JUDGING OTHERS.

For example, when judging men in general – it’s cuts off the possibilities of a deeper relationships.   When judging another woman, you’re closing yourself off to more rewarding friendships.

This is what what most people do. Because it’s safer or so we think. And then we wonder – why don’t I have more girlfriends or where are all the good men?

 

When your heart is open – more GREAT men and GREAT people present themselves to you. 

 Practice having an open heart.  Do everything you do from a place of believing in love and having faith in the value that love has to bring and amazing things will begin to happen  – within you and around you.

 

Here’s to love!

 

P. S.  You might also like this home study course – The Feminine Art of MANifesting Big Love! 

Teresa Salhi

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Confident Women Understand Feminine Energy

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Someone asked me the other day if I thought others understood what I meant when I talked about feminine power or feminine energy. My answer was “probably not all.”  But some do and more will. I haven’t always understood the meaning behind those words either – the truth is I continue to get it more all the time.

It has been through my  own personal experience and personal growth that has lead me to this most empowering information that has literally changed my life.  I  also say this about the discovery of the law of attraction too that I often talk about and is behind everything I do.

I used to think feminine power meant to be a bitch or to force your opinion, to be demanding or a “not take any crap from anyone” kind of attitude.  You know, to be like a man in a woman’s body.   But that is not at all what I understand now.

 And unfortunately it might be our society that teaches us this dis-empowering description.  And why we are so confused at times.

What I know now is it’s not the forcing of our personal power but rather quite the opposite.  It is more powerful than a forcing of action on the exterior of our being because it is an internal energy that aligns with our innate being.

I’ve always heard women described in ways of nurturing, passive or emotional.   And often the descriptions had a weakness undertone.

When I speak about feminine energy these days I am not speaking toward weakness or force – or only about women.  

Most of my life has been in unawareness of the feminine mystique, but 6 or 7 years ago I begin to delve into this topic  as it came naturally to me through the intentional  seeking  of personal improvement in myself  and my life.  

In my personal experience of becoming a more confident as woman and diminish behaviors of low self-esteem, it has definitely been due to the understanding of BALANCING the feminine and masculine energies within me – and yes we all have both.  

Let me explain what it means to be in your masculine or feminine energy along with some of the traits for each.

When someone (male or female) is primarily in their masculine energy, some of the ways they behave include: aggressive, decisive, providing, logical, leading, direct or directive, protective, competitive, planning, strong, controlling, and end result oriented.

 When, someone is primarily in their feminine energy, their characteristics include: intuitive, connective, relational, cooperative, receiving, emotional, collaborative, flexible, magnetic and journey oriented.

None of these traits are bad or undesirable. In fact, all of these characteristics are beneficial. As you read through both sets of traits, something becomes evident though—masculine energies are all about “doing,” while feminine energies speak to “being.” The key is to understand when each serves us and to be able to identify if we’re out of balance and how to get back in alignment.

I became aware of my ‘out of balance’ while working in a corporate high demanding job.  This was also a time that I was divorced and living on my own for the first time in my life.  I was worn out at work -although making good money, I would often drive to work in tears because it just wasn’t me – and I had already experienced 2 failed marriages.

 It was a transformational time in my life and I wouldn’t change it for anything – although some of that transformation pushed me out of my comfort zone and often while kicking and screaming. 

But it also pushed me into being a more confident woman who knows what she wants, knows what to do when things get a little crazy and even understands how to better communicate with men.  In fact, I believe this to be the key reason why I am now with my soul mate.  I know that we would not have met had I not been on a path to go deeper into relation building with myself first so I could develop the deeper relationship with my now husband.  I guess I would say it has even turned out to be amazing marriage advice too.

So when I speak of feminine power or feminine energy, I have a strong belief in the support it can offer women to look a closer within and see if they are out of balance with their own masculine and feminine energy.  As women, we are often taught to be like men if we are to be successful.  Also, to be stronger in the masculine ways of competition, doing it all ourselves, or being in our ‘head’ all the time.

When we can allow ourselves to receive, to collaborate, and to ‘feel’ before doing, we can begin to de-stress and hear our internal guidance on what actions to take first instead of the other way around. 

We can show up in romantic partnerships more confident in whom we are and let him be who he is – this is super important for harmony in love.  He does not want to be with a masculine woman in the private moments of our time together.

I want to talk about this, I want to learn, I want to be successful in love life and all there is.  I also want other women to explore and feel into this with their own desires of being more confident, peaceful, happy and loved.

Teresa Salhi

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The purpose at Empower The Dream and Power of She Business & Lifestyle Networking is to make a difference in the transformation of women’s lives, supporting them as they tap into their potential, encouraging them to expect more as they open up to her personal power, to become unstoppable, to turn their dreams into reality and finally embody the belief that they the dream maker in their life.

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Keeping It Real. Letting It Go.

by Teresa Grooms-Salhi

Letting go. 

757468ef8aa02e330d6ff718cb6b2ac1 Keeping It Real. Letting It Go.What the heck does it mean? What am I supposed to be letting go of?

Someone, something, some thought, feeling, action, past or future? 

Unity Church says, Let Go,  Let God.    I remember the first time I heard that I was eager and

confused.   As a woman highly interested in her spiritual growth and vested in becoming who others seek

out for support and strength – I had to become one who understood what I did not.

Fast forward about 6 years. 

This year Letting Go is my theme, my word, my mantra and my celebration.  

I have an amazing life and I am doing what I love.  I am not perfect nor is my life.  I know I am in  charge of it and I am the creator and

divinely guided – that is – when I listen and when I let go.

I’ve tested it out and I can honestly tell you that letting go has to be.

I had to let go of being in charge of it all.  I said I didn’t want to do it all myself but my actions spoke louder than words. 

My husband came to the US from Algeria, needing to learn the ropes here. He depended on me to lead the way of what was considered the

American way.

I loved it and I hated it.  I wanted to be in my feminine and have my knight in shining armor take care of me – and that does not

mean I wanted to be any kind of damsel in distress.

I was associating being in charge as very masculine and it was time I let go of some of that behavior, after all, I left the corporate world

and that is where it got out of control.  My control thing that is.

I had to be in control there, I was paid to have it all together and make sure those who worked for me did too.  It was a long hard coming

into this woman that earned accolades, high fives and a bonus or two. But it made me crazy.  Crying behind the office door.  Pretending

to be that which I was not – a man in a suit.

Letting go has been a work in progress. Turning my trust of the divine over piece by piece.  Some pieces bigger than others.

The biggest ones had to do with me trusting me…

Wanting to know myself enough to feel good now, with the moment, with the body, the hair the house and the car…with the love of all my

dreams unleashed and shared out loud.  I’ve come along way.  I am very close.  And this year is honoring my effort of being the best woman,

mother, friend and wife, entrepreneur – and lover of life.

I forgive me. I forget the past. I am going for the full blown pleasure of trust and authenticity that is forever mine.

 I Let Go and Let God.  

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Slowing Down.  Knowing When To Say Yes and When to Say No. Holiday Time Tips for Superwoman.

I’m writing yodivine feminine 1 Slowing Down.  Holiday Tips for Superwoman.u from the still December evening in my Arizona home.  It’s been quite cold here this weekend with evening temps in the 30′s. Which Which may not sound cold to many of you but I say BRRRR!

It’s actually been quite perfect because the natural environment, all cold and a bit frosty are just what we humans often forget during this time of holiday craziness — December is a time to SLOW DOWN, BE STILL and BE SELECTIVE about how you spend your energy.

How’s that going for you?

For me, I’ve been wearing warm, cozy sweaters, sipping hot chocolate and doing my workouts indoors.  I am wishing I had a fireplace about now.  I’m also saying No to  things I would LOVE to do, but I feel aren’t in alignment with what my soul needs. I’m still working, creating lots of great things for 2014 with a Femme & Fearless group program coming up, a Sip & Shop Holiday Soiree with my local Power of She Business and Lifestyle Networking group that I recently started, and spending heart warming time with friends, but I’m still winding down my pace…

You see, I’ve decided to recover from the super woman, doing addict, over-giver, do it all myself kinda gal and – and this “recovery” has included practicing living in alignment with nature as a way to work less hard, have a higher impact and be happier, and as a result learned to trust a few things.

One – A  woman aligned within, can be highly creative and productive without being too busy or stressed, you just  have to practice the Feminine Magic Power of PAUSE  so you can find the stillness in the crazy.

AND

Two – Practice super self-love in the form of self-care and self-honor, CHOOSING wisely how to spend your energy – not saying yes to everything, and being willing to say No, even if you would love to say yes.  I know that you may find it hard this month to stay out of the overwhelm, the over giving, over-eating, over-spending, over-visiting, etc – which is why I am committed to ensuring that you don’t move through December like a crazy person, only to deplete yourself and then come January be stressed out – you CANNOT start your year from that place. Well you can, but wouldn’t you rather end your year and  start 2014 MORE full of energy, joy, peace, love so you can create 2014 from a place of ENOUGHNESS, centerdness and connectedness to your authenticity.

So, I’ve got 3 tips and a couple of presents for you–to help you SLOW DOWN… BE STILL (even in the crazy )… and SELECTIVE about what you say yes to (without feeling guilty for saying no).

1. BE SMART WITH YOUR TIME & ENERGY – DON’T OVER GIVE or OVER DO… GIVE ENOUGH, not more, AND SAVE THE REST FOR YOURSELF
Say yes when it feels really right.  Give to the people and things that you love this holiday season, and RETAIN energy for yourself. Remember to GIVE to yourself. And do it before you run yourself into a cold or a sore neck. When you start feeling that run down sensation or the stress kick in, ask yourself, “Am I over-giving?” “Am I over-doing?” “Am I over extending myself?”  If the answer is yes,  stop, drop and realign your giving equation and ask “What is ENOUGH to give, to do, to offer?” and “What do I need to also GIVE myself?”

2. BE STILL – SPEND EXTRA TIME IN YOUR ZEN SPACE

December is a time of going inward for the feminine and it’s more natural to want to cozy up at home than to flit from party to party every night. Pick your social outings wisely, doing the ones that fill you up the most. Don’t be afraid to pass on social obligations that don’t totally light you up. Decline politely, wish them holiday cheer, and then create a cozy, warm space inside your home full of self love, magic and holiday beauty. Use that energy to fill you up.

3. BE SELECTIVE – Say NO TO WHAT FEELS OUT OF ALIGNMENT WITH WHAT YOU REALLY NEED & WANT, EVEN IF THAT MEANS DISAPPOINTING ANOTHER.

Choose the FEW Things that really matter to you and say YES to those. The self-loving, high vibrational women in you knows what is for and doesn’t   waste your vital energy carrying around feelings of guilt or obligation. She does what she needs to do and wants to do, without apologizing or being a victim or martyr.  She’s never rude, always full of love, and she has no qualms about setting healthy boundaries.  Make this a holiday that you do your way. Set the intention that you will fill yourself up with energy, love and happiness this holiday, and anything that doesn’t fit those ideas, you can pass on, without guilt or obligation.

Come 2014 – you’ll be ready to jump into the FEMME & FEARLESS Mastermind & Tribe of other eager gals, if you choose to go for it with gusto. Here’s that present for ya- Click to see more.

And it you do feel a yes to mix and mingle with other gals showcasing the best beauty and lifestyle services – take a detour to the Sip N Shop Holiday Soiree in NW Phoenix. I think it is supposed to be warmer that day too! Click to see more.

Which of the 3 Feminine Magic Powers of Pause choices will you commit to? And WHY is this important to YOU?  Go ahead and comment below too so we can witness you in support and in solidarity as you – as we – take a stand for living for what we really need.

Dream Big!

Teresa Salhi

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Self Worth

Do you ever wonder how other people see you? Does it change your self-worth?  I think most of us do.  In fact, I’ve read that nearly 99% of all human beings wonder about that. It’s completely normal. And pretty scary. Because you don’t really know what others think about you  – so you often make […]

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Living an Average Life

Are You Living an Average Life?  In the average or C+ life, things are ok but not great. All the right life elements are in place: ok job, good friends, people you love. The checklist items are mostly checked.  The problem is, something feels off. Life feels like it is happening in black and white, […]

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Queendom

Becoming the Queen of Your Life is using your feminine power Every woman can be the Queen of her own live, her own heart- if she chooses.  It isn’t something she does, it is who she is.   She must decide how to govern her own life. She seeks friends and relationships that honor who she is […]

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Do You Have A Confident Woman Creed?

Confident Woman Creed Everyday I have a choice and opportunity to be that which I desire – which is simply put – to be a courageous, empowered and confident woman. Now it’s not that being a confident woman is always simple or easy and at times far from it!  But that is in essence what […]

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No More Ms. Ordinary-Hello Sassy, Confident Me!

No More Miss Nice and Ordinary.. Hello Miss Sassy, Confident Me! Are you too hard on yourself, expect too much from others or get overwhelmed, especially during the holidays?   If so darling, you may consistently fall prey to a very pesky mindset of disappointment. When we presume or hope that others will be have […]

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How Do I Develop More Self Love?

How Do I Develop More Self-Love?                                       I read an article by T. Mohr and it inspired me to share what helped me form deeper understanding and foundations.   And I have to agree- it is a bit mystifying when hearing hear personal growth and life coachy folks tell us to love ourselves more — as […]

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Discovering Feminine, Empowered and Goddess Purpose

Discovering Feminine, Empowered and Goddess Purpose                                                        There is a purpose for your life, whether you believe it or not. You may have to take several paths, but with a little digging, you can find where you’re meant to be. The first clue to figuring out your purpose […]

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Get Your Groove Back

Letting Go & Finding Pleasure – Back In The Groove! Have you ever felt a little out of sync with life and what is going on around you? I sure have.  For example, on the outside everything’s perfect, yet on the inside it’s all ho hum and somehow I just cannot get excited about my […]

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What Does Life Want From You

What Purpose Does Life Want For You? As I began to ask the question to myself recently – about my purpose -, it didn’t take long to start getting some answers.  I noticed a difference from a few years ago when I felt  I couldn’t decipher or understand the thoughts I was having. Know what […]

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Dare To Be Beautiful

Dare To Be Beautiful! It’s a funny thing about beauty – if you don’t know that you are beautiful, you might as well not be.  Your life and happiness will not reflect the beauty that others see in you, and your experiences will mirror the lack you perceive in yourself. Beauty is an essence which […]

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Do You Break Promises?

Do You Break Promises? by Teresa Salhi Many people break their promises. They have been for a long time. Maybe you have too. It's sad but true. It isn’t intentional, but it is happening. It often shows up in the form of: * Commitments not kept * Things Change * Quitting Gosh, I know some […]

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The Goddess Mindset

Goddess Mindset by Teresa Salhi When I mentor my female clients on how to tap into their inner confidence, feminine power and their biggest desires, one of the very first things we work on is mindset. Truth is, it isn’t a lack of skill, capability or experience that holds most of these awesome gals back, […]

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A Valentine Love Aftermath From A Single Woman

Sorry Jerry Maguire, but I complete me! We have just endured, February 14, Valentine’s Day. Often dismissed as a Hallmark holiday, it actually has origins dating back to ancient pagan tradition. The modern custom of candy and cards, however, is far removed from those distant beginnings. Regardless of where or when it started, Valentine’s Day […]

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5 ‘Must Have’ Female Friends – Are You One of Them?

You don’t get to choose your family, but you do get to choose your friends. Because we are such diverse individuals, we often find ourselves seeking various  types of friendships that fulfill different parts of our life  – emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually. It’s rare to have one female friend that can fulfill all of […]

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Your Soul Mate Is Here

Have you found your "soul mate"?  Our soul mate is often referred to as the perfect romantic partner who ''gets'' you like no other person does or breathes life's rhythm with you  or as Phoebe referred to, (on an episode of the TV series, Friends), as "your lobster."'  Apparently, when lobsters find their mate, they […]

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Am I A Deeply Fulfilled, Adored & Purposeful?

What training have you had to be a deeply fulfilled woman, who is living joyfully and passionately all while feeling gratified, adored, inspiring, creative and expanding creatively and spiritually? You've likely been taught how to accomplish or how to be effective and productive, but what about being deeply fulfilled?    As 2011 and another year […]

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True Love's Kiss – Take Action For Love

 I watched a couple of older movies this week, Evan Almighty and Shrek. My husband is a huge fan of the Shrek movies, he enjoys the message of love and how Shrek overcomes his fear of it by taking action for love – for true love's kiss. He also likes, Jim Carey who plays in […]

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Are You A Control Freak?

Are you getting what you want by being a control freak? Yikes! Do you have ‘control’ tendencies? Many of us do and we don’t even know it. This happens so often with women. We have a natural tendency to help and take care of others but, unfortunately, it often turns into too much control of […]

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Rock Your Confidence-Meeting New People

For years I was shy and uncomfortable with meeting new people.  I was concerned that I wouldn’t know what to say. I was afraid I wouldn’t sound smart enough or interesting enough.  There were times I would go out of my way to avoid an encounter in public.  On a few occasions, I flat out, […]

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The Lifecycle of Self Belief

I want to remind you something today.  I want to remind you that you are an amazing and beautiful soul that has been bestowed upon our world.  Yes….you are. I hope this is your self belief too.  When you believe this, you can hold your head high and know that it is in your unique […]

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Do Your Conversations Hurt or Inspire?

Do you ever feel that in some conversations, your words and meanings come out all wrong? Either the other person is misunderstanding what you mean or you are not effectively communicating what you mean?   Both of these scenarios can be so frustrating!  When these conversations happen, we end up feeling numb,  confused and even hurt.  […]

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How to Visualize

Do you want to learn visualize or see and imagine your dreams in a way that they feel really possible and move your forward with heart and soul and eagerness, motivation and belief?  Do you want to create a juicier life, career or relationship but you feel lost when it comes time to get clear […]

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Boost Your Self Esteem By Running

  Running is a great self-esteem booster, especially if you are a beginning runner.  Running will allow you to test and expand your limits like never before.  With each milestone you reach you will find yourself more confident and able to take on the world. Starting out slow reaps big rewards Even if you can’t […]

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From Neediness to Natural Confidence

By Teresa Grooms-Salhi from Empower The Dream How do you walk the talk of a confident gal? Especially when it comes to being successful and integrating career and personal life? I have always enjoyed seminars, especially on personal growth and business. I have heard many a speaker advise on the success how-to’s.  There’s a plethora […]

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Value of Me – Lesson in Self Worth

By Teresa Grooms Salhi at Empower The Dream Dalai Lama – Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. Our personal value or self worth is what we stand for in the world in which we live.  It often comes to us naturally, yet many of our values can be nourished […]

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