We are already one month into the new year – woooooahhhh! Yes, it comes and goes so fast. I used to think I had time. Now I know my time is also self-created.
When we truly embody our feminine spirit – we know to be with our journey and enjoy it or at the very least notice the learning moments of the journey, to take them in, reflect, grow and evolve from….
It is in that spirit that I share this list with you:
Create What You Really Want – 5 Personal Insights
May they empower you to make awesome forward movement in your year.
1.Comparison. Years ago, a mentor taught me a game-changing empowerment secret: use comparison to pull yourself forward (instead of tearing yourself down) by comparing where you are now to where you once were.
We talked about this in the Raise Your Glass end-of-year reflection call. Where you there? It is so powerful, especially for women. Even in a “boring” year, we accomplish more than most people do in a decade. We can benefit from the learning for years to come, if we take the time to gather said learning in the first place.
Stop comparing yourself to Her. To Them.
Allow yourself to revel in your own accomplishments and acknowledge how far you have come. Compare yourself to your own journey of where you were last year – 5 years ago. You are doing great – know that and own it.
2. Choices. We always have the choice of resistance or allowance. Allowance is our natural state. It’s how we’re born when we enter the world – receptive, deserving, and open. Resistance is a behavior; a pattern of thinking or believing that is learned.
I know at times it can be confusing to decipher the difference but if you remember that our supply is truly unlimited and everything desired is already in reach – it becomes easier to see where you are showing up.
Here’s the deal. You can only receive as much as we are willing to allow. You will know you are in allowance when you are actually taking the actions required to create what you want.
That’s right – allowance equals action of some kind!
Apply for the job. Stop eating sugar. Go to bed earlier. Seek knowledge. Meet new people.
I realized I was doing some of my own resisting. For example, I made new decisions for myself and business this year by listening to my soul. Yes, awesome. That means I must now allow in new ideas, ways of being and opportunities to show up. By resisting, I end up falling back into old patterns of doing things.
Sometimes it feels crazy and awkward in transition. It is part of change. I am continually recognizing this and taking new actions forward. I know it is the only way to get to my desired place.
What are you resisting? When you look at your list of New Year’s intentions, where might the resistance be showing up? Please trust me when I say this is best to figure this out now, because the only cause of non-miracles is resistance.
3. Things are as easy or as hard as you make them. As an online coach to brave women, I hear a lot of women struggle with the conflict of HOW to get what they want. There is fear that it will never happen. For most women, change, massive growth and expansion IS a ton of work. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
What creates the resistance is not “the work or the HOW” itself, but our clinging to the myth of “hard,” refusal to believe we can really have what we want and resistance to allowing ourselves to truly be supported.
Oftentimes, we need to let go of what is no longer aligned with our bigger desire or next step. For me, it was to stop doing so much externally. Going to many physical meetings, for example. Attending or facilitating 6 networking meetings month was more time inclusive than the meeting itself. It also included getting dressed, travel time, unplanned stops along the way…
Seriously, if I want to be more creative and offer more life supporting online classes – I need to make the time to do so. I was telling myself it was hard to create programs. But the truth is, I love it and it is not so hard. But I was not making enough time for it. Acting like superwoman goes against what I want to model. I got confronted with myself and reminded to practice what I preach.
Whatever “it” is … does not have to be hard. Yes, there are external circumstances that are outside of your control. But we all play a role in whether something is hard or not. A good portion of “hard” is self-created, and exists only in your own mind.
What can you let go of that will allow your desire to come easier? Is it something you are physically doing that is distracting from what you really want? Is it what you are saying to yourself – “it’s too hard,” “I’m not good enough.” Possibly both.
4. Every creation is really a co-creation. I believe in the Divine, God, Source Energy – and we are aligned together with hands of the seen and unseen. It is the life force energy we all belong too. Your dreams – the lifestyle change, the new career or business, a readiness for love, etc, – cannot be created in a vacuum and all by yourself. Your good comes from your innate connection and [S]He works through other people. Without a doubt.
You are not alone. Ever. Nor can you create alone. Which means that you don’t have to do it all alone. This is some good news!
Find your way to or back to your spiritual center. It will also be there waiting with open arms.
5. Relationships with others are everything. On top of the fact that we do not create anything alone, ever, and never have to do it all ourselves… we are here to create, and that means connecting with other beings, human and otherwise, on a deep level. How you choose to show up with the people around you may be the #1 indicator of your quality of life. This goes from your closest friends, your ex, the peeps at the office or the outsiders you feel envious toward.
So choose love. It feels good, turns you into an attraction magnet and is actually pretty easy when you get past your own perceived limitations.
You get to decide how you will respond to the challenges – and you will move through them much quicker when you drop the resistance and allow them to teach you. Seriously.
A mentor or someone not in your immediate circle can help wonders with this. They can see you from the point of your future and not your past.
There we have it, some of my own secrets to creating a life I really want. Have faith darling, use the Universal Laws, make the right choices for your dreams, be open and allow yourself to be supported.
Please leave a comment. Do any of these resonate with you too?
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