From Neediness to Natural Confidence

By Teresa Grooms-Salhi from Empower The Dream

How do you walk the talk of a confident gal?
Especially when it comes to being successful and integrating career and personal life?

I have always enjoyed seminars, especially on personal growth and business. I have heard many a speaker advise on the success how-to's.  There's a plethora of advice on what you must do in order to be happy, sexy, beautiful and rich.  Oftentimes, the information comes across as their way is the only way.  I have even

heard that you need to have a degree, or write a book, invest in a $10,000 website or home school your kids, and the list goes on.

The truth is, those things likely worked for them but they didn't always work for me.  Sure, some of the ideas were inspiring and motivating, and I am all for tapping into inspiration or  a push forward, in fact, upon leaving a seminar I would often say to myself, "yes, I am going to do that!."

But sooner or later, I was back to feeling stuck. I didn't understand what was happening and blamed myself for not having what it takes to get to the level of success they had.  And that wore on my confidence. 

Maybe this has happened to you. 

What I finally learned was to stop getting so caught up in other people's rules on how to have a successful career which was supposedly the  result of confidence and the answer to being happy .  

In other words, I now know that I cannot keep trying to live other peoples lives' or keep doing what they say must be done in order to achieve success, confidence and happiness.

I have to do what I love.

I know that when I force myself in a direction that does not feel right, I end up emotionally and physically drained. Which will lead to thoughts of not being smart enough, resourceful enough, educated enough or something else that was not enough.

This meant it was time to get clear on what I really wanted in my career, with whom I want  to do it with,  and the way I wanted to feel at the end of the day. 

Stepping into this awareness has been freeing and rewarding beyond belief.  It seems rather simple but it can actually be quite profound in self discovery. To act only in congruence to who you are is the utmost feeling of confidence. 

Since gaining knowledge about the Law of Attraction and being certified as a trainer via the r Trainer Certification program, I soon understood that it is our thoughts and feelings that create our future.  The more experience and awareness I developed around this area in my own life,  the more the 'knowing' deepened and proof always showed up.  I eventually became a Law of Attraction trainer.

Confidence is such a sweet  result that comes from being who YOU are first.  Even before getting clear on who you want to work with in your career.  Therefore, It is worthwhile to get clear on who YOU are first and foremost.  It is the journey to the inside that will create a journey of success on the outside.  

As much as I am a huge believer that we are here to learn from, lead and support each other, I am not a of the belief that  we must ignore how we feel or sacrifice our own desires for the success rules of others. Heavens no, this is our sweet spot.  This is who we are. 

If you are anything like me and I suspect you are if you are reading this, then you too desire to live as an empowered woman, a woman who knows she is capable of making her own choices and who has much to offer as a model for young girls near and far. 

This is why  we must let go of the neediness and dependance on another person telling us what our next step must be.  Instead we can embark on a new journey, a new path, one of an inner discovery, and one  that sheds tears of joy rather than tears of frustration. 

Just as I have discovered  and hope you can too, that is our natural confidence that will shine bright when we live your own life instead of someone else's.  And this is how the confident gal walks her talk!

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Dream Big!

Teresa Grooms-Salhi

Teresa is an empowerment coach and founder of Empower The Dream – empowering women thru feminine presence, confidence and law of attraction. Teresa’s coaching style is a combination of professional education and personal life experience that teaches and inspires people from all walks of life. This is done in part by implementing positive changes and eliminating self defeating behaviors. She is also a law of attraction trainer (via the Trainer Certification program) and public speaker. Teresa spent over 15 years in corporate America managing operational departments, developing successful teams in the US and abroad.